the 5 steps

First time asking somebody out for dinner but don't know how? Or you simply don't know what to do on your dates? Here's how and what I think you should do.

Step 1: asking
Ask her/him yourself. It would be better if you ask with your mouth (including via phone call) because that way people might find it hard to say the most demoralizing English word - NO, except you ask at the wrong time, he/she has something important going on or they have another date. And it wouldn't look sincere if you text anyone to ask them out, but maybe that's quite common among us in Malaysia since text-ing one another had become lifestyle here. Maybe you can start by asking if he/she is free that day. And as the conversation goes on, just ask if they are interested to go out on a date with you (warning, some take the word DATE seriously, like dating, I mean dating is not for couple only right. Friends do date too) or in a simpler way, go out on lunch/dinner with you. If he/she is unavailable, don't give up yet. Change the time, the date, the place or whatever it is. And the key strategy : Be comfortable and be confident.

Step 2: planning
If it is a yes from the beginning, plan your date well. I mean, surely you don't want to spend the whole night/day with her in a restaurant only right. So plan it. What are you going to do after your dinner/lunch? Normally(or shall i say standard/common way) you will bring her for a walk (in a mall) or maybe for a movie. And it is OK, if she is really free afterward. So to be more well planned, (if you are a GUY asking her out or even you are been ask by her, it works either way) suggest that both of you go for a walk/movie after dinner. See, it won't be ended up badly at least. ;-)
And please, choose a good restaurant so that you two can talk to each other (less noise pollution) and less disturbance. :P

Step 3: dining time
Both of you order the food, you chit chat while waiting-and-later-eating the food. So take note on what you want to talk about. You don't want to spend the time talking on football all the time, or how's life at work, or how many cats/dogs you have etc. Think of a lot of topics to talk about. Even you have a good common topic, it might not last long. And it is not nice having a single person talking all the time so be smart. ;-)
And take note, the GUY should do the paying(i'm talking about the first date) while the GIRL 'would like to' pay but allowing the guy to do the honor. So guy be gentleman and girl be smart. But if the girl is paying instead, well, good luck. :-/

Step 4: the walk/movie
Personally i would like to suggest you to go for a walk in a park, near a lake or even town with interesting stuffs but here in MALAYSIA it's hard to have/find such place so probably you just forget it(or else you have a better idea than this). So the best way might be go for a walk in a mall(and remember to have something to talk about) and later go for a movie together. This time the guy can still do the paying but most probably the GIRL should insist on paying. But if he is more gentleman then why not? :P

Step 5: the end
And so it comes to the end of the date. You bring her home, say good night, and then you go home and text her you are home and you enjoy the night well(she might just waiting for you text too). With a good night well spent, it is possible to have a second date. :D


So good luck. :)